I've heard this stated in many forms over the years. We used to proclaim something like that in cell church circles when I was doing training for cell groups in the 1990s. In my previous pastoral position, I had a colleague who would fight for this supposed axiom. She said to me once "Groups that have a common mission will grow in love. It's like an army platoon that grows together while fighting a common enemy."
On the surface, this sounds right. And there are enough church situations where the church culture lines up with this statement. Therefore, it's not hard to list examples that seem to support this claim. However, I can also list plenty of stories of groups that tried this approach and it actually made matters worse. Today, I am going to deal with the practical reasons why we need to call this statement into question. (Tomorrow I'll address another aspect.) Here are a few reasons why this is the case:
- Let's look at the analogy of a platoon at war. Brotherhood (and sisterhood) is formed as you fight together. This is true. But let's not forget that soldiers go through basic training before they go to war. They are equipped with basic tools so that they can fight in tandem with others. Throwing people together around a common mission without considering how they have been equipped can produce disaster.
- People need to be equipped in the basics of what it means to give agape love in a Kingdom community. I've yet to find situations where people know how to do this just because they have a common mission.
- When a church has unhealthy relationship practices, putting those people in groups does not change those patterns. And giving them a common mission does not change them either. In fact, it can actually work against you as those patterns are put on display for the lost to see.
But it cannot be claimed to be universal truth. We need to listen to churches that are basing their groups on this statement, but we also need to understand the church culture from which they speak. We cannot go to them and try to do it like they do it. That's like a business owner driving up to GE and asking them how he can copy their business model. Most of the churches with whom I work need to establish some basic training to establish new practices that will result in missional living and then release people on mission. We need to understand where our people are and what they need in order to be prepared for mission and not just throw them out and expect them to "get it" on their own.