Passive-Aggressive Small Group Members—How to Lead Them

There are aggressive people. There are passive people. And there are passive-aggressive people. Leading the first two can prove easier because you know what you are dealing with.  But passive-aggressive patters are a little harder to understand and predict. Here is a video from a trainer in the business world but it provides insight into understanding how passive-aggressive behavior works.

  • What can happen to a group when passive-aggressive patterns go unchecked?
  • How have you responded to these behaviors in the past?
  • What are some positive ways to respond to passive-aggressive behaviors?

Here are a few tips:
  1. Don’t let your response to the behavior drag out to the point that you have to deal with it. Often it’s too late at that point.
  2. View them as persons loved and highly valued by God. See beyond their behavior.
  3. Pray and seek help from your coach or pastor, especially if the situation is potential toxic.
  4. Look for ways to help the person come to that “moment of truth.” 
What do you think?

Comments

Unknown said…
Really helpful video, Scott. I'd love to see the whole teaching. Do you know if it's available somewhere?
February 20, 2012 at 5:10 PM
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